Only a Concept, Idea, Label About Ourself Can Feel Hurt - 15th November 2016

It is a lie that some appearance causes trouble. No appearance can actually touch us. It does not really touch what we are. And I've been asking some of you recently that how is it that something outside appearing there can actually touch the reality of who we are? What is the medium through which it could attack the 'me', the 'I'? Is there some way in which that which appears can attack the reality of who we are? Can you see this now? Can we check at least outside the body and see that the dance of another, or the dance of the world in front of us, cannot really hurt what truly is? How can something appearing there, moving there, hurt the reality of what we are?

And yet, something seems to get hurt now. Something seems to get hurt. Why? If you have no concept about it, is it possible for something to get hurt based on something appearing seemingly outside? Is it possible to suffer? When I'm saying 'get hurt', I'm not talking about momentary reaction. But if you don't have a concept or a label or an idea about how something should be, then the appearance is just appearing, and there is no way that an appearance can hurt the Self. So, it can only hurt a concept that we have about ourselves. These are called attachments.

I thought those... there's an animal... I just saw something move over there and I realized it's a pair of feet. Then later, so that appearance... but unless you have a concept that, 'Okay, nothing should move over there,' then there can be no suffering because of it. So what we are speaking is very practical, actually; it is not theory. And we can check this now. Anything appearing in front of us, how is it that... same idea... how is it that a random stranger can come and speak some words? So energetically, the same sort of movement is happening, you see.

But another close relationship, as we have defined it or labeled it, that comes and speaks some words, you see, that makes a big difference. Energetically the movement is similar, but it is the concept that 'this one should not behave like this with me' or 'he or she should not say this to me.' You see, this idea of what the relationship should be like makes the difference. If this idea was not there, then it would be the same whether this one says, or this one says, or this one says, or this one says. It should make no difference, you see.