Burning the Conditioning About Fear for our Children - 26th Sept. 2016

I don't want to hide anymore and I don't know what to say but I feel I have to come up. Yes, yes. And yesterday I wrote something on Heart Altar and it is still here and it's still the feeling here that I cannot drop it completely. And on the other side the mind tells me, 'Oh come on, it's nothing' and stuff like that. Yeah. And so, so you don't have to come up and it's all good and always all by itself, you know? And I don't know what to say actually, but I don't want to hide anymore. Yes, I don't know what to do.

So let me share a little bit about what you are speaking about. So there was a sense that the experiences that we went through in our lives, our children or something like this—now we don't want our children to experience the same thing. And actually, in the trying to protect them, sometimes we can take it too far. This is what was bothering her, that in trying to protect them from things that could happen in the world, we take our protective instinct too far. Is the feeling that she had that she took it a bit too far and that that's why maybe the children are more fearful than they should be, or she's experiencing more fear now.

I'm sorry, I'm even in this controlling thing. It's yes, it's somehow controlling and it doesn't feel natural anymore what is here and also with the kids. So you summarize it very beautifully, thank you.

So what to do now that something has revealed itself and it still seems to have some life? Actually, it is Grace which has showed us, because many times we go through our entire life and we don't see the conditioning. We don't see the tendencies which are operating, you see? We only go through life with a sense of righteousness. But here what is happening is that through the grace of Satsang, through the Satguru's grace, you're able to see that maybe this is what is the tendency which is playing here, the conditioning which is playing here.

Then the point comes that, 'Okay, but I saw it and it still is not going. It is still not that light. It is still not dropped.' And the mind wants to come in and say, 'No, no, it's dropped now, forget it,' you see? Think like this. But actually, when something like this reveals itself, we must allow for it to burn. We must allow ourselves to feel vulnerable, to feel scared, to feel guilty, you see? All these sensations will come. Don't try to fight it away because we are talking about the long-term tendencies, long-term conditioning, you see? So allow yourself to burn in this fire. Don't run away from it too soon and you find that actually it is true that in your seeing it, it is losing its power. But we don't have to expect it to be in a finger snap, you see? It can take some time. It can take a few days for it to settle for us to see, because it's a beautiful revelation actually. And one day you will be very grateful that you are able to see this.